Crushes...
"Never settle" is a great motto and I do my best to live by that, but that doesn't stop me from those inevitable and sometimes annoying little things that come to most of us single people called crushes. See, I belong to a wonderful church where some of God's most humble and sincere (and surprisingly single) servants also choose to worship. That puts me in a difficult position. While I know that God has me single at this time of my life for His glory, I can't help but notice the people around me and think, "hey, he would make a great ministry partner" or "what would it be like to share the rest of my life with him?"
On the one hand, I believe that my crushes have usually been on the right type of guy, the type God would want me to hold out for. But on the other hand, I wonder if the crushes are in themselves displeasing to Him because they do take up thought time and emotional energy, not to mention doing a number on my sense of contentment in Christ. Also, along those lines, crushes tend to bring out the flirt in me and I'm almost certain that doesn't glorify God. Almost. So, I put the question out to the blogworld.
What are we to do with crushes? What I do is pray a lot. I confess to God that I want Him to be number one in my life and that I trust His sovereignty over my life. I ask Him for a real sense of His love for me that will remind me that not only is He in control, but He's working all things together for my good. I pray for strength and wisdom to handle myself in an appropriate and godly manner around said crush-ees. And finally, I pray for Him to "move or move me." (Thanks FFH for those words.) Feedback?
3 comments:
This won't be as profound as carol's comment, but... (j/k)
I don't have the answer either, but I hope you are on the right track because I am doing the same things as you.
I am currently going through the book "Every Woman's Battle" (Shannon Ethridge) with my accountability partners. We are currently in the section entitled "Designing a New Defense," in which Ethridge suggests 4 areas that we must guard carefully: (1) our minds, taking our thoughts captive; (2) guarding our hearts; (3) our mouths, locking loose lips; and (4) our bodies, building better boundaries. I have to admit, I have read these chapters more than once in an effort to really "get it." I believe that she intentionally put taking our thoughts captive first, because this is where it all begins. I have to admit, the solutions she suggests to this constant battle are effective, but they are not easy. This is just one more area (a big one!) where we must learn to continually, constantly, depend on God to strengthen us and help us be the people He created us, and called us, to be.
I completely agree with Erin B. that Carol's post was very profound :) And also her thoughts on how vital it is to take ever thought captive (I'm a huge fan of that book)
I want to add that it's okay to have crushes on godly guys. Don't condemn yourself for that. The desire to be married is good...we just need to be cautious when we distort it by putting it before God or what He has for us now, or when it leads to other ungodly things like lustful thoughts or jealousy towards other girls.
And I personally don't know how to flirt, but I don't think it's a hugely bad thing if you do...Leslie had a great post and comments - leslie.blogs.com. Most of the guys said they wanted girls to show interest...
yes...not sure who Carol is, but she definitely helped me in the area of crushes. Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted comments?
Thanks Erin and Erin for your comments. I agree that it's not wrong to have a crush, but you have to be careful what you do with it.
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