Never Settle...

This has been my byline for a long time. I plan to stick to it, though it has been difficult at times to wait on God's best. Recently, an anonymous female from church wrote a semi-cynical, semi-lighthearted poem about the fact that the single men in our church don't ask girls out very much. The poem was posted on another girl's blog site...this sparked a bit of conversation, both on and off the web, and it got me to thinking...not that it takes much to get me to thinking, but thinking coherently is quite a different thing from just plain thinking. I'm hoping this is the coherent kind.

My thoughts:
Single people are single for a reason. The reasons vary from fear of committment to social ineptitude to the plain and simple fact that it just isn't God's timing for them to be married. I think this last reason is the most overspoken and underbelieved reason of all. It's right up there with "do not be anxious about anything..." See, we singles can spout faith-filled sentiments saying, "God is in control" or "I know He has somebody for me somewhere" but then, we go off and try to make things happen on our own or we pine, whine and worry about our lack of a dating life. Do we really believe God is in control and that He has someone "out there" for us if we are constantly talking about our singleness? Maybe we are using tunnel vision and seeing only marriage as the end-all, be-all of existence, when truthfully, there are limitless callings in life that are just as viable and believe it or not, fulfilling, as marriage. A lot of us who whine (and I'm including myself, because I've done my share) probably will get married eventually, but what are we doing with our singleness and do we have the mentality that even if we never do marry, we can live an adventurous, victorious and God-glorifying life as a single person? Are we willing for God to call us to singleness?

Never settle...I've always thought of that injuction only in terms of who I'd be willing to end up with. But, it's bigger than that. Never settle for less than God's best whether that be marriage or singleness, a desk job in the city or a remote mission field assignment, teaching or ministry, in my case.
I've learned that "Never Settle" is not an excuse to close my mind to what I think I don't want. It's a command to be open to what God wants.